I know that it hasn’t even been a week since my last post, but I wanted to write briefly in honor of the compassion that has been shown to me this week by various Spaniards. I love the Spanish people so much, and I want to share a few anecdotes that I think encapsulate their amicability, selflessness, and wonder.
First of all, last weekend there was another enormous street protest, and my school, Carmen Martín Gaite, was granted the privileged position of heading the marchers. I went to support my teachers, and it was a riveting day. I saw some of my students there, one of whom stayed by my side for much of the march and introduced me to his entire family. I also spoke with many members of the staff and faculty of my school, not a few of whom expressed gratitude for my solidarity with them at this time. I walked the majority of the march with Ana, a woman who works in “orientación” (similar to a counseling office), her husband Ángel, and their daughter, Vega. Vega is an adorable three-year-old that I play with in English for a couple hours a week. When the protest was done, I went to get a fried-calamari sandwich with my co-workers. After the sandwich, I went out with Ana, Ángel, and Vega to a really relaxed and wonderful-smelling tea house. There we drank tea and talked about religion, politics, how societies organize themselves, and things of the sort. It was a profound, fascinating conversation, and throughout it I had the constant sense of having found true friends and caretakers here in Madrid, something that I don’t take lightly in a new culture and country.
Earlier this week, Ana made me “cocido madrileño,” a dish that does not really have an equivalent in the United States. It’s a delicious, savory broth that has chick-peas, carrots, and potatoes, and then you add different meats to the recipe, in this case chicken, chorizo (a pig sausage) and morcilla, which is a type of blood sausage whose description didn’t sound like something a former vegetarian would eat with alacrity but whose taste ended up being scrumptious. She also made a delicious salad with olives, tomatoes, capers, and such, and the meal was simply incredible. And of course, she sent me home with extras so that I could re-heat and enjoy leftovers. She and I have also had some really great talks about anthropology (her course of study at university), feminism, whether or not people living in first-world countries like Spain and the United States owe a social or economic debt to those in impoverished countries (especially when the impoverished countries were formerly part of an empire or a territorial property of the first-world country), and how to carry an attitude of wonder and novelty with you everywhere you go. I have felt so blessed to run across her and her family.
Another friend, Jesús from my swim team, is also as loving as can be. He is from Navarra, one of the northernmost regions of Spain, and after returning home from his native town this weekend, he wanted to make me a traditional Navarran dish. We ate “borrajas” (which my dictionary translates as “borage,” which I have never heard of, but which was a vegetable that sort of tasted like a mix of asparagus and celery) and a really nice cod, egg, and potato stew. Wanting to be polite, I had asked my co-workers what a typical Navarran dessert would be so that I could contribute to the meal, so I brought “buñuelos de manzana,” which translates more or less as “apple doughnuts” and which were a strange type of apple cut into large, thin slices, covered in a really good hint-of-lemon batter, fried, and then topped with cinnamon and sugar. Jesús and I ate like kings, and the whole meal was full of great conversation about finding direction in life, what qualities are important to develop in yourself and to look for in a mate, and other things. He is truly a remarkable man—he published a book about the geography and demography of Navarra before he got his PhD at Berkeley, and he is just incredibly warm, relaxed, and helpful. He, too, sent me home with some pickled red peppers that his mom made for him in Navarra and a tomato and green pepper sweet jelly that someone gave him that he is too afraid to try.
Things have also improved with Laura, the difficult roommate. She is just quite lonely and miserable, and when I realize that, I am not offended by her way of being and treating me. We haven’t had any mind-shattering conversations or heart-opening moments, but we’ve caught the metro together a few times, and I think all is well. Regardless, I feel more comfortable living where I do, and that is important.
I will tell you about one last great conversation I had this week and then I will ask for your input on the matter. On Wednesday, I had a free period in my work schedule, so I went with a teacher in another department at Carmen Martín Gaite to get a coffee and chat. He is one of two teachers to whom I give English lessons on Monday and Tuesday, so we know each other and feel comfortable talking deeply. Probably because I have been thinking about the topic so much, the education system and the goals of the entire pedagogical process came up as the subject matter of the conversation. He and I proceeded to have a lively talk about what is working and what is failing in education in Spain, in the United States, and in general. All of which leads me to my own soapbox where I will muse and pontificate…
Working in education is a thrilling and taxing job. I have fallen in love with my students and want nothing more than their well-being, their happiness, and their development into ethical, strong, loving human beings. It’s unbelievable how much you can care for your students. There is one who is occasionally difficult but adorable as a button and sweet as can be—he’s really small, wears glasses, and has awkward 12-year-old teeth with gaps and protrusions that adolescence and braces will probably smooth out. One teacher with whom I work told me that he is pretty socially isolated from the other kids because he doesn’t like soccer (which is truly a sin in Spain) and is small. Hearing things like this break my heart and make me realize how much I already care for these kids. Wanting what is best for them, I always wonder what the role of school is in their lives. They have to be at school six to seven hours a day, and kids in Spain don’t get a lunch or snack break. They move from class to class and are constantly reprimanded for talking in class, for not doing their homework, or for mis-conjugating an obscure English verb. Then they have physical education where they are all tested against a standard benchmark and given either a passing or a failing score. My tall, athletic boys pass with flying colors. My short, chubby boys fail and then feel terrible about themselves. And I hate seeing them go through that self-hatred, that social judgment, without an adult like me to tell them that failing at the horizontal jump doesn’t make them any less of a person.
Call me a progressive hippie, but I don’t think that the system prepares kids for what they need in life. As a soon-to-be 23-year-old, what do I need in life? I’m not 100% positive, but I think the best skills that I have or am trying to acquire or have the aspiration of one day acquiring are these:
- How to take care of myself physically—how to choose healthy food and prepare it myself; how to find exercise that is both enjoyable and challenging; how to get enough sleep; how to make healthy choices about drugs, alcohol, and other substances
- How to take care of the rest of myself—how to organize my time wisely; how to relax and enjoy life; how to use art, spirituality, friendships, and love to amplify my being; how to resolve my psychological maladies; how to integrate different parts of my being
- How to relate to others—how to listen; how to be compassionate; how to understand cultural and personal differences; how to foster friendships and sexual/romantic partnerships
Let me briefly say that I absolutely believe in excellence and hard work. I also absolutely believe in intellectuality, mental curiosity, and intense study. I realize that probably for the majority of societies throughout the majority of history, children have been used as intensive labor for hours a day or have not even been given names until adulthood since the likelihood of their impending death given the childhood mortality rate meant that they might be a “lost investment.” I realize that school is a privilege, and that is why I want to do it right. So let me say that I find history fascinating and life-changing—just read Howard Zinn to see why history can change the world. I find chemistry astounding and mind-blowing—reading The Elegant Universe (more about physics, but you know what I mean) this summer showed me how science is at the heart of the question of what life is all about. I just don’t know if forcing these kids to do rote memorization for hours a day while they’re hungry and just thinking about the fight they had with their parents, or how they’re going to fit in with their friends, or what they’re going to do about their newly emerging sexual feelings might not be the best system. And I want to know what you all think, if you would like to share. Does the education system work? What do we want out of it—people that are generally smart and well-rounded? People that are happy? People that know how to work hard? Please share if you like. I’m fascinated by this topic.
I’m leaving tomorrow for my first Spanish travel-vacation to Barcelona! I look forward to it and will certainly write about my adventures when I return.